3.27.2018

The Power of Maybe

What kid really likes hearing 'Maybe' from adults? I used
to despise it, and I now I say it, repeatedly.

Recently though, I may have figured out why I say 'Maybe'
so often in teaching and parenting. While it may sound like
a wishy-washy reply, the truth is I want to empower kids to
come up with their own ideas and take action. Most of the
time when I say 'Maybe' what I am really saying is, "Great
idea! Now what? How are you going to make that happen?!"
How often do youth passively expect adults to make things
happen?  I want to empower my students and own children,
but that does mean giving up some of the control, and
expecting more self-control and leadership from our youth.
The responsibility of growing up and following-through is
on kids, too.

Below is an example of the power of 'Maybe'.

Once upon a time at the 2005 Fall Open House of Nevis
School, a junior named Micaela told the new Art teacher,
"We NEED an after school Art Club!" The teacher said,
"Maybe." Thinking, 'Show me how badly you need it.'
Then, Micaela and some friends showed up after school,
and kept showing up! They made a lot of big and small
things happen, like huge inspirational banners that filled
the cafeteria, art field trips to Minneapolis, and many
trips to the MSHSL State Art Show. In 2018, Nevis HS
still has an after school Art Club. The same teacher keeps
saying, 'Maybe' to kids who have big ideas, and then
watches them make ideas into art, friendship, and
belonging.

Art Club cafeteria banner makers, 2006.




2014 meets 2018

For quite a few weeks now, I’ve been driving by this wolf-kill 
deer, not far from our driveway. A month ago I saw it mainly 
in half-darkness as rib-caged crows sat in and pecked at it. 
Immediately, I was brought back to my 2014 illustration for 
LouAnn Shepard Muhm’s poem, ‘Against Violence’. Today, 
walked to the wolf-kill rib-cageno birds around, but the 
sinewy heart shape came in view for the first time. So much 
in life comes full circle and connects; I suppose it is our job 
to keep our eyes open and make some meaning from these 
lessons. 2018-me and 2014-me are connecting with these 
words and images. More connections to come. #wordoftheyear 
#connection

"Long Winter", 2018

LouAnn Shepard Muhm's words from "Against Violence", 2014
My rib-caged crow illustration, 2014